Okay this little Blog is about the loss of a very special little man that i have spoken about in a blog before Old Man River aka Sebastion he has been very sick over the last few years and has gotten worse in the last four months I talked about his new medication for his fluid on his heart lungs and liver the pressure of the fluid was making it very hard of him to pump the blood around his little body so over the last 2 weeks he has not been his self at all he just wanted to sit and stare off into the sky or the swimming pool he didn't want to play with his toys nor did he want to have his favourite treats either. As my mum is away on holiday on the other side of Australia and we are here in Perth Western Australia it was hard for her to know her furbaby was so poorly and unwell. Last Sunday I called my mum with the update of Sebastions health and after many tears we decided it was his time to go off to the land of happiness and joy with no pain, we had Sebastion on lots of medication for his heart his pain from his operations he has had on his hips and knees and he was just not responding to the new meds that were meant to assist him in being able to breath and just go about being a furbaby. But He was crying out in pain all night and day i had to help him to the toilet and he was just not copping very well so with heavy hearts we made the appointment for the vets on Monday
he had a wonderful life and his last night was full of all the things he loved family food cuddles and just about anything he wanted. To keep him here with us would be selfish as he was in so much pain. Its was so hard knowing it was his last night I cried all night and couldn't sleep a wink it was horrible I had the support of my loving partner Monster and my little chihuahua
Miss Mildred, as the night turned into day I was feel sick in the tummy knowing what was to come
we entered the vets where Sebastion has been a client since he was a pup. The staff were loving and so very supportive in every way they knew this day was on the cards as he goes to get clipped every 6 weeks where they have to sedate him I know he was only 12 years old and he lived a very loving spoilt life, which didn't make going into the vets room any easier, once inside the room Sebastion was given a sedative to relax him
I had him in my arms rocking him like the baby he was soon the time came to have the other needle and out came the clipper I thought he would put up a fight as he hates the sound of the clippers and they have to normally give him for medication then they had to be able to clip him but he was brave and allowed Jodie the vet nurse to clip his little leg and them in my arms they put the needle in and within about 1 minute I felt his soul leave his body and he was gone it was ever so fast and I cried so much I know people will say that it was wrong to do this but it was the the only option left for him and it was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. When we got home all the other furbabys were waiting at the front door for him to come in its like they know.
Miss Mildred wouldn't let me out of her sight its very strange to not have him snorting and snoring but he is in the land of happiness and joy pain free and chasing all the birds and postmen he can find! Below I have a few things that might help you with the loss of your Furbaby !
Am I crazy to hurt so much?
Intense grief over the loss of a furbaby is normal and natural. Don't let anyone tell you that it's silly, crazy, or overly sentimental to grieve!
During the years you spent with your furbaby (even if they were few), it became a significant and constant part of your life. It was a source of comfort and companionship, of unconditional love and acceptance, of fun and joy. So don't be surprised if you feel devastated by the loss of such a relationship.
People who don't understand the pet/owner bond may not understand your pain. All that matters, however, is how you feel. Don't let others dictate your feelings: They are valid, and may be extremely painful. But remember, you are not alone: Thousands of furbaby owners have gone through
the same feelings.
What Can I Expect to Feel?
Different people experience grief in different ways. Besides your sorrow and loss, you may also experience the following emotions:
Guilt may occur if you feel responsible for your pet's death-the "if only I had been more careful" syndrome. It is pointless and often erroneous to burden yourself with guilt for the accident or illness that claimed your pet's life, and only makes it more difficult to resolve your grief.
Denial makes it difficult to accept that your pet is really gone. It's hard to imagine that your pet won't greet you when you come home, or that it doesn't need its evening meal. Some pet owners carry this to extremes, and fear their pet is still alive and suffering somewhere. Others find it hard to get a new pet for fear of being "disloyal" to the old.
Anger may be directed at the illness that killed your pet, the driver of the speeding car, the veterinarian who "failed" to save its life. Sometimes it is justified, but when carried to extremes, it distracts you from the important task of resolving your grief.
Depression is a natural consequence of grief, but can leave you powerless to cope with your feelings. Extreme depression robs you of motivation and energy, causing you to dwell upon your sorrow.
What am I able to do regarding my feelings?
The most vital step you'll take is to be honest regarding your feelings. Do not deny your pain, or your feelings of anger and guilt. Only by examining and coming back to terms along with your feelings are you able to begin to figure through them.
You have a right to feel pain and grief! Somebody you really loved has died, and you are feeling alone and mourning. You've got a right to feel anger and guilt, as well. Acknowledge your feelings 1st, then ask yourself whether or not the circumstances really justify them.
Locking away grief does not make it escape. Express it. Cry, scream, pound the ground, talk it out. Do what helps you the most. Don't try and avoid grief by not thinking about your pet; instead, envision the nice times. this may assist you understand what your pet's loss really means to you.
Some realize it useful to express their feelings and reminiscences in poems, stories, or letters to the pet. Alternative ways as well as rearranging your schedule to fill within the times you'd have spent together with your pet; preparing a memorial like a photograph collage; and talking to others regarding your loss.
When is the right time to euthanize a pet?
Your Furbaby Vet is the best judge of your pet's physical condition; but, you're the best judge of the quality of your pet's everyday life. If a pet has a good appetite,
responds to attention, seeks its owner's company, and participates in play or family life, many owners feel that
this is often not the time. However, if a pet is in
constant pain, undergoing tough and nerve-racking treatments that are not helping greatly, unresponsive to affection, unaware of its surroundings, and tired of life, a caring pet owner can in all probability favor to finish the beloved companion's suffering.
Evaluate your pet's health honestly and unselfishly along with your Furbaby Vet. Prolonging a pet's suffering so as to stop your own ultimately helps neither of you. Nothing can make this call a straightforward or painless one, however it's actually the ultimate act of affection that you will make for your pet.
Should I stay during euthanasia?
Many feel this is often the ultimate gesture of affection and comfort you'll be able to provide your furbaby. Some feel relief and comfort themselves by staying: They were able to see that their pet passed peacefully and without pain, and that it was really gone. For many, not witnessing the death (and not seeing the body) makes it harder to just accept that the pet is absolutely gone. However, this could be traumatic, and you want to ask yourself honestly whether or not you may be ready to handle it. Uncontrolled emotions and tears-though natural-are likely to upset your pet.
Will my other furbabys grieve?
Furbabys observe change in the family social unit, and are certain to notice the absence of a companion. Pets typically form strong attachments to one another, and therefore the survivor of such a pair could seem to grieve for its companion. Cats grieve for dogs, and dogs for cats.
You may need to offer your living pets plenty of additional attention and love to help them through this period. keep in mind that, if you're aiming to introduce a replacement pet, your living pets might not settle for the newcomer at once, however new bonds can grow in time. Meanwhile, the love of your living pets will be splendidly healing for your own grief.
I hope this has helped you with some of your concerns about the loss of a Furbaby !
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